Hello all, and Happy Tuesday!
Let’s talk about Friendships.
I hope you all are doing great! I always have 1000 things on my mind LOL. Today I want to speak about
friendships! I think about that topic often. I have lost many different friends along the years. I always try
to understand why, too. I know I am not perfect, but I know I mean well and always have good
intentions. I think friendships are like a marriage in a sense. You really must be able to communicate, be
honest, and understanding to maintain a friendship. You also need to understand someone’s upbringing
to an extend as well. Some people just don’t know how to be friends. I still have this one friend… (Hi if
you are reading) and she was very honest with me a long time ago. She said “I don’t know how to be a
friend” I said “of course you do” but the truth was. she didn’t. That wasn’t her fault though. When I
think about her upbringing, she didn’t have that good example. Her statement got me to thinking, and I
have thought about it ever sense. For me my upbringing was watching my mother with a core set of best
friends. She had four friends I called my aunt. They spoke all the time, they saw each other all the time,
and they loved me just like I was their family. Also, the same with my dad. He had some awesome
friends too. That was my foundation, and I yearned for great friendships like my mom and dad! I have
meant some great people and developed great friendships. To this day I have people in my life that I
know will be my friends forever! Joanne and Nicole are two of them. We speak about it all the time, and
our parents were and still are the best of friends. But what other friendships. What about the trauma
that some people experience and never address? That carries over into every relationship they have.
Sometimes it can be so exhausting to be friends with someone. I think about it a lot and wonder why it
can’t just be easy. Easy to love, respect and value friends. I know it isn’t hard for me, and for others. But
for some it is hard. I have come a long way in my life about understanding and I continue to learn and
understand more. I also know I can still work on things about myself. But what I know and will forever
know is I am loyal. NOT PERFECT but loyal. I am sensitive and take friendships very seriously. I vent to
let our frustration, but never personal business. I understand not all are like that. I wanted to know how
you feel about friendships. How are your friendships? Do you agree with some factors I said about
maintaining a friendship? Do you think friendships have changed over the year? Different people with
more trauma. Let me know your thoughts.
As always thank you for reading. I always appreciate you all!
Love, Schmo
xo